I think it was Spencer Kimball who counselled that before marriage you should keep your eyes wide open and then after marriage keep your eyes half shut. I love him more than anything, but lately, the lack of real time together and the stress of his work impacting how I am made to feel like I'm on eggshells when we do get together almost seems like to much to bear. At best they just try to include you in the community, and at worst you are constantly told that you'll be welcome "when you're ready. Well, there were other circumstances that made it especially unique and One thing in your favor is the fact that she is in her late 20s by Mormon standards she is already an old maidhopefully she and her family will just want her to have love and not put the pressure on converting you, but there are countless stories of dudes getting dumped on here because ultimately they chose the church. So how do we approach saving a relationship with someone who has unrealistic expectations of what a long-term relationship looks like. I agree with what you and so many of the other replies have said: Listen with an open heart and curiosity. It isn't money that he is just throwing around on useless things, its for dinner movies normal date stuff that people do over a course of a month and we cram into one weekend.




By that I mean that we ought to consider simply marrying within the faith and in the temple for all the reasons that people have given. So there's THAT to look forward to. It's the extra socializing, hanging out with residents, stopping by the hospital to visit his best friend. I would show her this recent post for example: Her family will also be thinking about this and will talk to you about it when you spend time with them. Is it fair for me to ask him to put more time and effort into our relationship. When she goes on a mission, she will go through the temple which means she will be wearing garments.
As our relationship has progressed, this vague hypothetical question has led to some much more concrete thinking about what an interfaith marriage would be like for me, for him, and for us. Have been MD in good relationship for 25 years with kids etc but key is that my wife has her own life and works as hard as I do at her own career and isn't caught up in my world. The point missed in this article is that many doctors also have narcissistic personality traits. If she is full on Mormon, this relationship will go one of two ways: You will convert and change your entire lifestyle and personality to conform with her expectations never to deconvert or you will face severe penalitesor you will break up because you won't convert and change everything about yourself.
Jack is right about the demographics. He wanted our kids exposed to Christianity for intellectual reasons and likes the community. Mormons are very strict about avoiding sex outside of marriage. If you can put yourself in his shoes, you would understand that, first of all, he is barraged by hungry patients all wanting answers and a piece of him. It had nothing to do with our relationship and so much to do with the pressures and demands of his work.